Today, families have many funeral service options available to them. As one of Erie's most trusted and progressive funeral homes, we offer a wide range of services to accommodate the wishes and desires of every family. Those options include the traditional visitation and burial service, cremation alternatives or immediate burial.

Traditional services

The "Traditional burial service" has always included a period of visitation at which time family and friends gather in the presence of their loved one's remains. This time of gathering is intended to assist in the process of grieving by providing a strong support system.

This time of viewing is usually followed by a service that is held either in a church or at the funeral home. Ground burial or entombment always completes the traditional burial service.

Cremation alternatives

For those families interested in cremation, we offer several options. Many families who choose cremation also request the traditional time of viewing and funeral service rites, followed by cremation and either burial, interment or scattering of the cremated remains. We also offer families the option of a memorial service. Memorial services are intended to offer the bereaved the same form of support that a viewing does; however, instead of viewing the deceased loved one, the cremated remains may or may not be present at the discretion of the family. Memorial services may be held virtually anywhere. We also offer the option of a direct cremation. Direct cremation is simply cremation of the remains with no related funeral rites outside of a graveside or memorial service if desired. It is available for those families who desire a simple service at a basic cost.

Immediate Burial

As the title implies, this option entails a direct burial within a 24-hour period. Embalming is not required. With an immediate burial, a graveside service or memorial service may be held to commemorate the life and death of the deceased.

It is our responsibility to help you select the best option for your family.

A Helpful Guide To Funeral Etiquette

When a friend or acquaintance dies, your first reaction may be to help. But you may not be sure of what to say or do. It is natural to feel this way.

While you may feel hesitant about intruding on the family during their grief, it is important to visit them. It lets the family know that while their loved one is gone, they are not alone; that while suffering a great loss, they are still connected to the living, and that life will go on.

When Should I Visit?

Upon learning of a death, intimate friends of the family should visit the home to offer sympathy and ask if they can help. You may prefer to visit the family at the funeral home. This setting may be more comfortable for you and the family, as they are prepared for visitors at that time.

How Long Should I Stay At A Visitation?

It is only necessary to stay for a short time; fifteen minutes or so gives you enough time to express your sympathy.

What Should I Say?

Using your own words, express your sympathy. Kind words about the person who has died is always appropriate. If the family wants to talk, they usually need to express their feelings; they aren't necessarily looking for a response from you. The kindest response is usually a warm hug and simply say, "I understand."

The Visitation At The Funeral Home

A formal visitation provides a time and place for friends to offer their expressions of sorrow and sympathy. This practice is most common among the Protestant and Catholic faiths. The obituary should tell you the visitation hours and when the family will be present, or you may call the funeral home for this information.

When you arrive, go to the family, and express your sympathy with an embrace or by offering your hand. Don't feel as though you must avoid talking about the person who has died. Talking can help the grieving process begin. If you were an acquaintance of the deceased but not well known to the family, immediately introduce yourself. Do not feel uncomfortable if you or the family members become emotional or begin to cry. Allowing the family to grieve is a natural healing process. However, if you find yourself becoming extremely upset, it would be kinder to excuse yourself so as not to increase the strain on the family.

Viewing the deceased is not mandatory. However, if offered by the family, it is customary to show your respects by viewing the deceased, and, if you desire, spending a few moments in silent prayer. Always sign your name in the register book. If you were a business associate of the deceased, it is appropriate to note your company affiliation or the family may not otherwise know you.

Your simple presence will mean a lot to the family. You do not need to stay for the entire visitation, but try not to leave during any prayers that might be offered.

Other Expressions Of Sympathy

While there is no substitute for a personal visit if you are able to do so, there are many other ways to express your sympathy.


E-mail is appropriate from those who are not intimate with the family such as a business associate or a former neighbor. The family will appreciate your message of concern.


Flowers can be a great comfort to the family and may be sent to the funeral home or to the residence. Some people prefer to send flowers to the residence afterwards. If the family asks that donations should be made in lieu of flowers, you should honor that request.

Food For The Family

The most welcome gift at this time is food, as there may be several visitors in the home who need to be fed. During the days immediately following the death, substantial dishes that require little preparation other than reheating are appropriate.

Mass Cards

If the deceased was Catholic, some people will send a mass card, instead of, or in addition to, flowers. Catholics and non-Catholics may arrange for a mass to be said for the deceased. It is also appropriate to arrange a mass on the anniversary of the death.

Memorial Gifts

A memorial gift is always appropriate, especially when the family has requested such a gift in lieu of flowers. Usually the family will designate a specific organization or charity. Remember to provide the family's name and address to the charity so they can send proper notification. It is acceptable to mention your gift in a sympathy note without mentioning the amount of the gift.

Phone Calls

If you live out-of-town you should telephone as soon as possible to offer your sympathy. Keep the call brief, since others will probably be trying to call as well.

The Funeral Service

Funeral services differ depending upon the religious and personal beliefs of the family. Funeral services can be held at a church, temple, funeral home, or even the residence. Most people will chose the funeral home, because of its central location or the unique service that it provides.

Whether the service is held at the funeral home or at church, enter quietly and be seated. The first few rows are usually reserved for family members; however, people should sit close behind them to give comfort and support. The ceremony is usually conducted by a member of the clergy, but others may offer thoughts, anecdotes, or eulogies. At the conclusion of the service, you will want to leave promptly, and wait in your car if you plan to follow the procession to the cemetery. Remember to turn your headlights on so you can be identified as being a part of the procession. Also remember to turn your headlights off once you arrive at the cemetery.

Immediately After The Funeral

Immediately after the funeral, the family sometimes invites the attendees to join them for food or a reception at their home or designated place. This gives everyone a chance to talk and provides some time to relax and refresh. Sometimes friends or church members will take it upon themselves to prepare food ahead of time for this gathering, and relieve the family of this task.

What Do I Say When I See The Family In Public?

What you say depends on if you've already had contact with them. If you attended the visitation or funeral, merely greet them warmly and ask how they are doing. If this is your first meeting with them since the death, your first reaction might be to express your sympathy. However, it is nicer not to bring up the death as this might evoke emotions that might be painful for your friend to deal with in a public place. Perhaps it would be better just to say you understand that this is a difficult time for them. You might even ask when it would be a good time to visit or go to lunch or dinner.

What Can I Do To Help Later?

In the days and months to come, the family will continue to need your support. Try to write or call on a regular basis. Continue to include them in your social plans. They will let you know when they are ready to participate. It is also nice to remember the family on special occasions during the first year following the death. Don't worry about bringing up the pain and emotion of the loss, they are well aware of that. By remembering such occasions as wedding anniversaries and birthdays, you are not remembering the death, but reaffirming that a life was lived.

It is our sincere hope that this information will help guide you on how you can be of comfort to someone who is grieving the lost of their loved one.

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